I generally don’t like to focus on how lost we are as a society, but yea…we are so lost… and it seeps in to the family and religious communities. We don’t know how to love appropriately. We’ve turned into a bunch of narcissists and enablers.
Love isn’t just a sweet feeling where everything goes and we put up with whatever is thrown our way because we ‘luv’… and we don’t want to be seen as harsh…because that’s not Christ like. Or we may keep quiet under the guise of ‘carrying our cross’ faithfully.
But what if our cross was to obey God completely in however way He’s leading us, and that could be to speak up and possibly endure the retaliation of the ‘narcissists’.
We need to step out of the enabling role. If we are parents and teachers, superiors and employers, spiritual directors and parish priests. We have a God assigned duty to correct others in our care. By shirking that God given assignment, we are turning our backs on our calling to love as God loves.
Fraternal correction I find a little trickier… I believe the relationship has to be pretty solid in order for any type of correction to be accepted. We also need to take into account where that person may be on their walk with God. He has a Divine Pedagogy for each of us, just think of your own journey of faith. So a lot more discernment needs to go into it. Could we possibly be doing more harm than good? I tend to just pray for them, and ask to be used by God in anyway that He’d like it. I also ask for the intervention of Our Blessed Mother and then I ask her to do the dirty work. 😀